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If you start dating someone gettng engaged in April is around Labor Day too soon?

Both if you’re in your 30’s and adults?

11 comments

  1. Its up to you. Only the two of you know what’s right.

  2. When’s labour day?

    Don’t expect everyone on here to be American.

  3. People fall madly in love, but the ecstasy, excitement, strong passions and desires, and high emotion are very hard to keep up, so eventually we start to come down, typically after around 18 months to three years. If two people are friends first, have discussed their mutual values, shared ambitions, interests, etc., in depth (obviously there will be a few differences, which help make relationships interesting), and make plans, work on their personal development, etc., this can develop into a long and wonderful relationship. If one party feels insecure or low in self respect, that can make for a difficulties. It’s easy to behave at our best when deeply in love, but a marriage type relationship involves a lot of self discipline, sacrifice, compromise and flexibility.

    Teenage & 20s marriages (I know you’re older) are so very often disastrous in the longer term: it’s very hard to get to know and understand others until we get to know ourselves, our own needs, etc. which are still fluctuating a bit until we are “mature” (typically women in later 20s, men mid 30s). Hence, adolescents’ feelings often fluctuate somewhat. This is a very good reason for avoiding the emotionally bonding sexual intercourse, as it can so often lead to serious emotional confusion. This is the main reason why there are so many deeply unhappy people writing their questions here.

    Good Luck in the decision you take.

  4. then it will be a true love or there will no love only selfish

  5. Take your time with your relationship! Honestly, you should do that!! Even if you know that you want to marry this person. At a year in a half my fiance and I knew we wanted to get married. But, we waited until we hit the 2 year mark. We’ve now been together for a long time. We’ve had a longer engagement for many good reasons. If you jump into something really fast, you will regret it, in the long run. If you just met your love in April then why not date for a while longer?

    I met my fiance when I was 28. Were getting married this April. We’ve been together for 4 years! It’s been a great relationship. We’ve had our ups and our downs and worked them out. I’ve gotten the chance to know my fiance over the 4 years we have been together. To this day, I’m still learning so much about him! I love him with all my heart. When we first started dating our relationship was so easy. Then by the second year, things started to change. We weren’t in the honeymoon stage anymore. We were becoming more serious about each other. The first year of dating is when you start to learn things about your love. If you don’t take the time to be with each other then you could ruin a good thing.

    Just look at Kim Kardashian… as an example? She met her guy and claimed she had fallen in love with him. Yet, he was the total opposite of her. She never knew that until after she married him. She didn’t take the time to know Kris. She just assumed she was in love. She dated the guy for like 6 months only. Then about a month later she rushed into marriage. In that 6 month period she didn’t notice or see if she had anything in common with the guy. She never stated that she had stuff in common with him. Then the things that she would always claim to learn about him were so stupid. He through her in the water once and she cried about it. It was so stupid! Yet, she felt she had learned something new about him. Being thrown into the water, is something knew you learn about a person? No!!! Over the 4 years that my fiance and I have been together we both have learned how much we have in common. We both have similar school situations. We both love the same things… music, traveling and more. That’s what makes our relationship wonderful! It’s taken us 4 years to learn all this stuff. You should give it some time! You will learn a lot in the next few years about your love that your dating. It will either be good or bad! You want to learn those things now before getting married!! The reason why Kim’s marriage didn’t last was because she didn’t take the time to learn about Kris. If she had learned how horrible he was she might not have married him. If she just waited a lot longer her life would be different! If you rush into marriage, you might end up with some 72 day marriage! I’m just being honest and speaking from the heart! Marriage is a lot of work! Most people don’t realize how much work goes into marriage! My fiance and I right now are doing marriage preparation. We love it! It’s work! It’s more work then planning a wedding!!! Remember, plan for a marriage!! Take your time doing it! You will be so happy in the long run!!!

  6. nope it all depends on the relationship

  7. Dating only 5 months?

    Well, have you talked about religion, politics, money, debts, savings, kids, etc? Or, are you just going off of the lovey-dovey honeymoon stage?

  8. Yes it is too soon. There is much to learn about each other and it will take more than 4 months

  9. My husband and I got engaged after 3 months and I was 24 and he was 29. We’ve been married 3 1/2 years with two kids. When you find the right person you know. If you were in your teens I would think you’re crazy but at 30 you know what you want and what you’re doing.

  10. My parents knew each other for less than 6 weeks before they got married. Talk about a whirlwind romance!

    Dad died last summer on their 65th wedding anniversary.

  11. It’s not too early to become engaged but i wouldn’t marry someone i didn’t know for at least 18 months or longer…. the things we find out after a year or so!

    It’s better to wait.

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