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When first talking to a chick, which is a good time to wait if you do not come out hopeless?

I saw the movie Swingers, and I’m not sure how this applies to talk to someone through the personals web based, but we joked back and forth a few times and I just want to know what is the statute of limitations on contact so that you don ‘t come off like a loser. One day? Two days? MerciVoilà for consensus. Maybe he would have been easier if I asked these days why wait

10 comments

  1. Call them the next day.

  2. mssingletoncrystal

    five days

  3. call them the next day or theyll think your not into herxx

  4. First of all you never brag about yourself or your life. Secondly, you let her start the conversation and listen to her. Third, be respectful to her thoughts and actions and let things flow naturally. Two days is a great time period.

  5. To be very honest with you, the girl never really cares if you call her the next day. In fact, she probably feels a lot better to know somebody likes her enough to call sooner than later. The three-day-rule is just what media establishes. Only the superficial girls will judge your desperation by when you call her.

  6. Ignore the “3 day rule.” If you’re really into a girl, call her the next day. Heck, plan a second date while still on the first! When you call, if you get her voicemail, just say, “Hey, it’s Chad. I wanted to call and say I had an awesome time on our date, and I’d like to see you again. My number is….” Then leave the ball in her court.

    If you haven’t met someone yet but are emailing back and forth, there are no rules. Just don’t sent her 10 novel-length emails. She sends you one, you send her one, she sends you one, etc. But DO arrange to meet in person sooner rather than later.

  7. waiting too long makes you seem like you lost interest. send her a good morning text to wake up to. it makes her think about you all morning. and if she falls asleep before seeing a good night text from you , she may dream of you .

  8. EVERYBODY is going to tell you a different answer and the reality is EVERYBODY is different. Some people start relationships fast, while others take it slow. The most important thing for you to do is to gauge how fast this girl wants to take the relationship.

    For an easy rule of thumb, find out how long it is taking her to respond to you and use that measure. So, if she took half an hour to respond to your email then you should take AT LEAST half an hour to respond to hers. This way if she starts to respond faster to you, then you may feel free to change the pace with her.

  9. Id say about 2 or 3 days later. It just depends on the girl and how your conversations go. You could the next day, but I would keep it simple but in a way the girl knows your interested. If you wait too long the girl will just start questioning if you even really like her. FInd a happy-medium.

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